unconditional presence?

It’s a way of being

with oneself ,

with the other,

with the ‘what is in the here and now’

with no conditions, expectations and judgements.

It’s the top-notch ability to accept things - both within you and around you - just as they are

!!!whether they’re comfortable and joyous or discomforting and painful!!!!

as both these types of experiences that we tend to label as positive and negative have their equal rights to exist and take place in reality - they are both a vital, essential and integral part of the whole.

But for us humans it’s hard to have that acceptance for the full range of reality.

Have you ever wondered from where the inacceptence itself for life circumstances is coming from?

It is coming from an idea that stuff should be different

but who are you to dictate this whole universal show of which you are a part of?

do you sense that level of grandiosity and the desire to control life’s outcomes?

it’s your ego speaking at its finest ;D

why unconditional presence is important?

It’s the cornerstone of creating healthy and safe relationships with yourself [your parts]

and then subsequently the cornerstone of creating safe and healthy relationships with the others.

The thing is that in the development of which I’m concerned of - the emotional and spiritual

one will not go any far away if he or she

is not able to be unconditionally present with the parts of self that are carrying discomforting and painful emotions

i’m talking about the parts of self that once felt overwhelmingly dense emotional experiences and didn’t have the chance to fully feel them and express due to emotionally unsupportive and restrictive environments (mom, dad and their own struggles to accept and feel their emotions that just come to surface when the child becomes emotional)

thus, these aspects of the self, along with the emotions they carry, were unexpressed and suppressed with a goal to not override the entire system - a form of survival technique

some examples for your better comprehension:

we all have the part of self that is vulnerable - the vulnerable self this part feels deeply and intensely but if there is no safe space to express and feel the emotions this part gets unseen, powerless, feels trapped, unworthy, unlovable, ashamed for being the way it is 💔

quite an intense cocktail of internal pain, isn’t it?

the same goes with the expressive self - if it didn’t get the chance to be expressive because it would receive criticism or rejection the very same cocktail of internal suffering arrises

and what about the trusting self who is looking for security and connections and the intense suffering it experiences when it not just doesn’t receive what it is looking for but on top of that experiences the complete opposite - hostility and neglect?

the list could go on and on

the main idea is that if you don’t consciously create space for these parts of self and the emotions they carry

you are keeping yourself trapped in the very same unhealthy and disruptive pattern of emotional suppression that is a learned behavior from your early environment.

The thing is that you are constantly presented with a power of choice - wether sustain this vicious cycle that has nothing inherently good in it for you,

it’s just ‘how you are used to dealing with your uncomfortable emotions’

or

start fostering trust, health and balance within yourself by finally being open,

being interested in,

being willing to hear and to feel what is weighting down some of your parts - what is weighting down your system and is begging for a resolution in the ways of Signs of Suppressed Emotion(S)

I would love to continue elaborating on this topic more for you on our 101 <3