How to ‘Start feeling’?

As humans, we all have the innate capacity to feel, there’s no exception to this.

We are all wired the same ➡️ we respond to stimuli with a ranging spectrum of emotions that tend to create varying physiological changes that are universal to all human beings, for instance:

• Happiness is a sensation of warmth in the chest, lightness in the body, euphoria, and a sense of well-being.

• Anger is when we sense an increased heart rate, heat or pressure in the head or chest, rapid breathing, and tense muscles.

• Sadness is characterized by the heaviness in the chest, lethargy, and a feeling of sinking.

  For more descriptives check the emotion “vocabulary”.

To be able to feel (and by this find connection with your spirit)

It’s about getting back into your body, into your physical temple - in the bodily sensations of yours.

As it is our body through which we feel emotions.

It's our body through which we experience the conscious present.

It's our body through which we are able to experience the emotional spectrum

Problem - some people are very good at disconnecting from their bodies and thus the sensations that are taking place there, leaving them with a false idea that they are "unable to feel".

If you find yourself in this situations - I’ve got your back

Here’s a generalized guide on how to reconnect with your ability to feel and by this bridge your way towards connecting with your spirit.

How to “Start Feeling”

Create a safe space

To “start feeling” is a process of you getting in tune with your body. For you to be the most efficient in this you need to create some favorable conditions that allow the process to unfold more smoothly:

• Choose a place where you feel safe, calm and good

• No external distractions

• Comfort to either lay or sit

• Incense, candles, lights, calming music, hot bath … do whatever that’s necessary for you to increase your level of relaxation

Close Your Eyes & Go On An Internal Journey

Shift your focus from the external into the body. Take notice of the sensations taking place there.

Get on this internal journey with a mission to find 1 to 3 sensations that are present in your body.

For noticing the sensations use body scan as a tool:

*️⃣*️⃣[ Take a moment to settle in and take a few deep, calming breaths. Begin by gently bringing your attention to your feet. Notice any sensations—perhaps tingling, warmth, or pressure. Slowly shift your focus upward, moving through your ankles, calves, knees, and thighs, tuning in to any feelings present in each area.

Continue this gentle scan, bringing your awareness to your hips, lower back, abdomen, chest, and upper back. What do you sense in these place of your body? Let your attention flow naturally to your shoulders, arms, and hands. Finally, focus on your neck, jaw, face, and the crown of your head. What sensations are present there?

Simply observe whatever is present in your body. There’s no need to rationalize, judge, or label sensations as ‘good’ or ‘bad.’ Just allow yourself to be curious and open to whatever arises. Your body is your map - explore it.

Conclude by taking a few more deep breaths and reflecting on the sensations you noticed during the practice. ]*️⃣*️⃣

Regularly practicing this body scan can help you become more aware of your bodily sensations and thus the emotions that are online for you and coded beneath those bodily sensations.

It's super effective to do the body scan and go on an internal journey whenever something or someone evokes a negative or unpleasant reaction within us.

By doing this, we dive straight into the areas of ourselves that require our attention.

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For instance, a colleague said something to you at work and you got very pissed

the ideal thing to do would be to get into your body asap and observe where in the body you're feeling the unpleasant emotion (once again emotional vocabulary can be a helpful guide to name the corresponding emotion if it’s the labbeling of emotion that you are struggling with)

once the name of emotion is more or less clear that it’s all about understanding it:

-> What this feeling that you are having right now is trying to tell you about you?

How else should you get info about yourself if not from the emotional reactions that you are having????

▶️▶️ In this case the state of being pissed might highligt an insecurity or a past experience which tends to reoccur in different circumstances through different people, that you need to look closer to. Or perhaps it reveals a boundary that you need to set or communicate more clearly as for the emotional reaction of ‘being pissed’ not arrise within you anymore.

Your body and emotions are talking with you and pointing your attention to the areas where it is needed the most

By understanding these emotional reactions that are emerging from the self you're cultivating emotional awareness and are taking the first steps towards emotional well-being, balance and growth. To go deeper into this journey check this:

!CONSISTENTLY schedule time with Yourself

This is a conscious practice that we are undertaking. Thus it means that we are not able to do it while driving a car, cooking a meal or getting a dog for a walk (at least when we are beginners at this).

For this reason, we need to deliberately schedule time with ourselves and devote specific time slots within days/weeks for us to do this practise - get into our body in the suitable environment and observe the sensations taking place there

as to extract the info being sent by our soul in the language of bodily sensations AKA emotions.

It's a super-gradual process

Reclaiming back the connection with your bodily sensations is a super-gradual process,

something similar to a physical trauma recovery during which you have to re-learn how to walk again.

The time it takes to start feeling again varies from person to person.

It all comes down to how strongly a person is disconnected from the body.

For some it might be the case that initially they are unable to observe anything.

and it’s OK

The key is to keep persisting

as those bodily sensations are there ➡️ it’s just a matter of how attentive we are to them.

Over time, as you become better at observing these sensations, they will become more noticeable, perhaps even more intense.

Be Genuine Curiously - The Best Mindset To Have

Just treat your bodily sensations as a fellow human that you are eager to get to know :)

• why you're experiencing certain sensations

• what past experiences may have contributed to them

• what external situations and themes are evoking specific emotional reactions within you ???

Do this for YOUrself

and I’m open to help if something